Here’s a recent resolution I’ve made—born mostly from the belated, persistent failure of my usual application of brute force and willpower:
In situations of duress, I will only ask myself either (or both) of two things:
1. Will I allow my internal state to be determined by external affairs?
2. What lesson am I intended to learn from this situation?
So far, it’s proven enormously helpful.
(Bolsters her resolve.)